Volume 13, Issue 2
Winter 2002
Senior Lawyer News
Instructions from the Father of Our Country
Rules
on Civility and Decent Behavior
in
Company and Conversation
by George Washington
Published by Appelwood Books in 1988
When George Washington was 14, he set out 110 rules of conduct that were, "drawn from an English translation of a French book of maxims intended to polish manners, keep alive the best affections of the heart, impress the obligation of moral virtues, teach how to treat others in social relations, and above all, including the practice of self-control." Your attention is drawn to the entire work as stated in the title above, but sample rules are set out below to attract your interest.
35th Let your discourse with men of business be short and comprehensive.
Good Manners
44th Being to advise or reprehend anyone, consider whether it ought to be in public or private, presently or at some other time, in what terms to do it; and in reproving show no sign of cholar, but do it with all sweetness and mildness.
46th Take all admonitions thankfully in what time or place so ever given, but afterward, not being culpable, take a time and place convenient to let them know it that gave them.
A Good Heart
50th Be not hasty to believe flying reports to the disparagement of any.
56th Associate yourself with men of good quality, if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be alone then in bad company.
73rd Think before you speak; pronounce not imperfectly nor bring out your words too hastily, but orderly and distinctly.
Above all, Self Control
86th In disputes, be not so desirous to overcome as not to give liberty to each one to deliver his opinion and submit to the judgment of the majority part, especially if they are judges of the dispute.
89th Speak not evil of the absent, for it is unjust.
98th Drink not, nor talk with your mouthful; neither gaze about you while you are drinking.
105th Be not angry at the table whatever happens, and if you have reasons to be so, show it not; put on a cheerful countenance especially if there are strangers, for good humor makes a dish of meat a feast.
110th Labor to keep alive in your breast that little celestial fire called conscience.